วันอังคารที่ 28 ตุลาคม พ.ศ. 2551

The Dangers of Peer-to-Peer Systems

Peer-to-Peer (P2P) systems do not operate on secure lines, thus providing a conduit for hackers to enter a network or computer, access personal and confidential information, as well as deploy viruses or worms. Users of P2P systems are prime targets and/or launching points for malicious hacker attacks simply because it requires downloading and sharing electronic files or programs, not to mention usage on publicly open and interpretable industry standard protocols and industry standard codec.

A Staff Report submitted by the Government Reform Committee of the U.S. House of Representatives (May 2003), entitled "File-Sharing Programs and Peer-to-Peer Networks ? Privacy and Security Risks", stated that users of these programs have inadvertently made their personal information available to other users. "A search of one P2P network found at least 2,500 Microsoft Money backup files, which stores the users' personal financial records, available for download."

Personal information includes tax returns containing you name, address, and social security numbers of not only you, but your spouse and dependents, financial information such as income and investments, medical records, business files such as contracts and personnel evaluations, and attorney-client communications, to name a few.

Spyware and adware programs are frequently bundled into P2P file-sharing software. These programs collect personal information for marketers and provide access to your computer by malicious hackers. In an article located on Vnunet.com entitled "Users Fume at Grokster 'Drive-by Download'", these two programs "?can redirect a user's homepage to a different website, install a new browser toolbar, insert entries into the users' browser bookmark list, reinstall itself after uninstallation, and ultimately crash a user's system."

Another grave concern for both individuals and businesses when using P2P software is unknowingly having your computer used as a supernode. A supernode occurs when your computer is arbitrarily assigned as a hub.

When you are running the software for P2P services, your computer's disk space, bandwidth, and processing power are used to help other users on the same system operate their software more efficiently because of their own network or firewall constraints.

Not only can this overload systems or networks with excessive data, disk space, and network bandwidth, unscrupulous hackers can also insert arbitrary code in each supernode's address space or crash all supernodes.

Peer-to-Peer (P2P) systems such as Skype operate by taking bandwidth (information carrying capacity) from customers on their service to assist other customers using their service - analogous to a symbiotic relationship. The tools that enable them to accomplish this are bundled in the software their customers download to access their VoIP service.

The above information is an excerpt taken from an in-depth and exclusive Report entitled "Why Hackers Love Computer Phones ? A Shocking Report You Must Read!" by Dee Scrip available only at http://www.whypay4calls.com/gtp/to.pl?l=ART-02

วันเสาร์ที่ 25 ตุลาคม พ.ศ. 2551

Understanding the Gospel of Matthew and Why it Matters - Part 2

Matthew 1:1-17

The Genealogy of Jesus Christ

1 The book of the genealogy of Jesus Christ, the son of David, the son of Abraham.

2A braham was the father of Isaac, and Isaac the father of Jacob, and Jacob the father of Judah and his brothers, 3 and Judah the father of Perez and Zerah by Tamar, and Perez the father of Hezron, and Hezron the father of Ram, 4 and Ram the father of Amminadab, and Amminadab the father of Nahshon, and Nahshon the father of Salmon, 5 and Salmon the father of Boaz by Rahab, and Boaz the father of Obed by Ruth, and Obed the father of Jesse, 6 and Jesse the father of David the king. And David was the father of Solomon by the wife of Uriah, 7 and Solomon the father of Rehoboam, and Rehoboam the father of Abijah, and Abijah the father of Asaph, 8 and Asaph the father of Jehoshaphat, and Jehoshaphat the father of Joram, and Joram the father of Uzziah, 9 and Uzziah the father of Jotham, and Jotham the father of Ahaz, and Ahaz the father of Hezekiah, 10 and Hezekiah the father of Manasseh, and Manasseh the father of Amos, and Amos the father of Josiah, 11 and Josiah the father of Jechoniah and his brothers, at the time of the deportation to Babylon.

12 And after the deportation to Babylon: Jechoniah was the father of Shealtiel, and Shealtiel the father of Zerubbabel, 13 and Zerubbabel the father of Abiud, and Abiud the father of Eliakim, and Eliakim the father of Azor, 14 and Azor the father of Zadok, and Zadok the father of Achim, and Achimrfasr the father of Eliud, 15 and Eliud the father of Eleazar, and Eleazar the father of Matthan, and Matthan the father of Jacob, 16 and Jacob the father of Joseph the husband of Mary, of whom Jesus was born, who is called Christ.

17 So all the generations from Abraham to David were fourteen generations, and from David to the deportation to Babylon fourteen generations, and from the deportation to Babylon to the Christ fourteen generations.

In 1998, investigative journalist Lee Strobel authored a book called "The Case for Christ". Strobel, who received a degree from Yale Law School and was Legal Editor for the Chicago Tribune, was converted from atheism to Christianity while writing the book. In "The Case for Christ", Strobel interviews a host of experts who lay out the evidence for the authenticity of the Bible and its teachings about Jesus.

In a sense, Matthew's gospel could also be called "The Case for Christ". As he begins the book, his full intention seems to be to convince his fellow Jews that Jesus really is the promised Messiah. Exhibit A is the opening genealogy.

The prophets had long foretold that the Messiah would come from the seed of Abraham and David. Matthew's genealogy is the evidence that Jesus meets this criteria. It's important to note that at the time when Matthew wrote his gospel, the Temple Records were still intact and accessible to the public. Anyone could have verified this genealogy and confirmed its legitimacy. These records were destroyed with the Temple in 70 A.D., making it impossible for any Jew today to prove himself a genuine descendant of David.

Matthew makes his point very clear by beginning and ending the genealogy by referring to Jesus as the Christ. The word "Christ" (Christos) is the Greek form of the Hebrew word "Messiah", which means "Anointed One." In the Old Testament, only three kinds of people were anointed. The prophets were anointed to be messengers from God. The priests were anointed to represent the people in performing sacrifices to God. The kings were anointed to rule over and lead God's people. The promised Anointed One was to be all three of these in one. Jesus, as the Messiah, was to be a prophet, priest, and king.

The Jews had waited centuries for this Messiah to come. His arrival was a testimony to the faithfulness of God. On this point Matthew Henry reminds us that "Delays of promised mercies, though they exercise our patience, do not weaken God's promise." Is there a promise that you are waiting for God to fulfill? Are you in a circumstance where you cannot see how God could possibly bring good out of it? Are you wishing that God would hurry up and bring peace to an area of your life? Be patient. God's timing is always perfect. Though He may tarry a little while, He will keep His promise. Jesus is evidence of that.

Addressing the Issues

Admittedly, Matthew's genealogy has long been a source of problems for those who defend the reliability of the Bible. Skeptics have been quick to point out that Matthew's genealogy is very different from the one Luke provides in his gospel. This can easily be reconciled, however, by understanding the difference between the two books. Luke, who was writing to a mainly Gentile audience, chose to give the genealogy of Jesus through His mother, Mary. This was probably the most natural thing for Luke to do, since Mary was biologically Jesus' parent and Joseph was not. Matthew, however, was writing to a primarily Jewish audience, and chose to give Jesus' legal genealogy through his step-father, Joseph, as would have been properly recognized by the Jewish laws. With this being understood, most of the differences between Matthew and Luke's genealogies are accounted for.

The other issue that often arises from a close reading of the Scripture is the absence of a fourteenth name in the last section of the genealogy. Matthew chose to present Jesus' genealogy in three sections of fourteen, choosing to skip over a few names in order that the genealogy would be more easily remembered. However, the last section of the genealogy only has thirteen ? not fourteen ? names. How is this accounted for? According to an early church father named Epiphanius, the name Jeconiah should actually appear twice in the list. According to him, Jeconiah chose to name his son after himself, meaning that the first and second names in the third section of the genealogy should be Jeconiah. A Scribe apparently saw that the name appeared twice and thought it to be an error, omitting it from the manuscripts available to us today.

The Meaning of a Mixed-Race Messiah

Jesus was certainly a Jew, but His genealogy reminds us that His ancestry includes Gentiles, as well. This was obviously important to Matthew, who went out of his way to mention three Gentile women who normally would not have been included in a formal genealogy. Tamar, Rahab, and Ruth were all Gentile women who married into Jesus' Jewish heritage. Matthew is most probably reminding his readers of these Gentiles to foreshadow a major theme of his gospel: namely, that Jesus has come to save not only the Jews, but the Gentiles as well.

In a world that is constantly struggling with racial and ethnic prejudices, there are several important truths we can learn from Jesus' mixed heritage. One of these is that we ought not to judge someone's character or worth by the race or nationality of their ancestors. Stereotyping is never godly, and undermines the Biblical teaching about individuality. Moreover, we should always remember that salvation is available to all people, no matter what their skin color, language, or customs.

On a side-note, whatever a person might think about interracial marriage, it should be observed that there were at least three in Jesus' genealogy, including at least one that was looked upon as an act of goodness on the part of God.

The Grace of God in Jesus' Genealogy

Anyone who has spent time studying the characters of the Old Testament cannot but help to be amazed at the terrible sinners that God graciously placed into the lineage from which Jesus would come. Consider these examples:

Abraham: Though certainly a hero of the faith, the father of the Jews also had his faults. When residing in Egypt, Abraham deceived the Pharaoh into thinking that his wife Sarah was actually his sister, and allowed her to be married to the Egyptian leader. This awful deception was done out of a selfish desire to be treated well in the country.

Tamar: Fearing the shame of never having children, Tamar disguised herself as a prostitute and slept with the father of her deceased husband.

Rahab: Unlike Tamar, prostitution was Rahab's profession ? at least until she became a follower of Israel's God.

David: This "man after God's own heart" was guilty of adultery, lying, and murder.

Solomon: As wise as he was, the son of David was foolish to marry hundreds of pagan wives that turned his heart away from the things of God and brought turmoil to the land of Israel.

Rehoboam: Solomon's son, Rehoboam chose to treat God's people with oppression rather than compassion, resulting in the nation of Israel being torn in two.

This list ought to bring hope to the hearts of sinners, for it reveals that God often chooses the very worst of sinners to be recipients of His grace. No one is "too sinful" to be saved.

It's important to note that when Matthew comes to the name of Joseph, he changes his phraseology. Where as he would normally have said "Jesus, the son of Joseph", he chooses in stead to say "Joseph the husband of Mary, of whom Jesus was born, who is called Christ." This abrupt change in language gives evidence to the unique manner in which Christ was born, and reflects Matthew's teaching that Jesus was Joseph's legal son, but not his biological son.

Who Do You Say Jesus Is?

Some say He was a great teacher. Others claim that He was a prophet. There are many who would argue that He never really existed, and still others who maintain that the story of His life has been inflated and exaggerated by religious zealots. Yet here we have the beginning of a different perspective. In Matthew we have the testimony of a self-righteous tax collector turned sacrificial martyr offering evidence that Jesus was more than just a mere man. He was and is the promised Messiah, the Anointed One, the Christ. Jesus is the long awaited Prophet, Priest, and King. Jesus is the God-man ? conceived by the Holy Spirit and born of a virgin. You must decide what you believe about Jesus. To not decide is to decide. Who do you say Jesus is?

Justin Nale is the pastor of Mount Hermon Missionary Baptist Church, a Southern Baptist Church in Rocky Mount, NC - http://www.mhmbc.org

วันพุธที่ 22 ตุลาคม พ.ศ. 2551

Sales Letters - How to Write Them

You could just send out your brochure to potential customers but it's much better to personalise your mailing with a well written sales letter.

Personalise - Using the person's name in a sales letter will give you the greatest success. It's feasible to address sales letters to - "Dear Transport Manager" or "Dear Friend" or "Dear Sir or Madam" or no salutation at all. However this lessens your chances of getting a response.

You must have a good headline - You've got to grab the reader's attention as quickly as possible. There must be a reason for them to read on. The same rules apply that you'd use in your advertising or your brochure; you need to start with words such as - "How to" or "Discover" or "The Secrets of"

Start with an anecdote - Introduce your message with a short relevant story. For example, you might use something like this if you were introducing a management training program - "Seventy percent of employees don't leave their job they leave their manager" You'd then provide supportive statistics and give details on the cost of staff turnover. You would then go on to show how you could reduce these costs and improve productivity through your training program

Lots of "You" and no "I" or "We" - Make each letter sound like you're speaking to that individual rather than to a group of people

It needs to tell the reader what's in it for them - Tell them how they will personally benefit, how their business will benefit and/or how their problem will be resolved

Be believable - Don't make "fantastic" claims for your product or service - your letter has to be credible

Write the letter as if you were speaking to the person - It has to sound human - warm, friendly, sincere; not too businesslike. Read your letter out loud and if it sounds pompous or businesslike - re-write it

You have to sound like someone your prospect would like to do deal with.

Appeal to emotions - Human beings are 100% driven by their emotions so that's what you have to appeal to in any of your promotional materials. Use words like - "feel" - "You will feel less stressed when you follow this program"

Action - They're must be a call to action - tell the reader what to do now and offer an incentive - "Phone now to receive the early bird discount" - Return the enclosed form today to receive your FREE gift."

Signature - Signing each letter by hand (in blue ink) will increase your chance of a successful response. Depending on numbers, this may not always be possible so use the best software you can to make your signature look realistic.

P.S. - Include a P. S. after your signature, something that will "tease" the reader to read the text. People will look at a letter headline first - they'll then go to the bottom of the letter to see who it's from. They'll then read the P. S. and that should encourage them to read the body of the letter - "P. S. The free report will be sent within two days." They're obviously encouraged to read the letter to find out what the free report is all about.

Remember the rule of seven - one letter won't do it, you'll need to send at least seven over a period of time.

Treat your reader with dignity, respect and courtesy. The trick is in not making a sales letter sound like a "sales letter." It needs to come across like a personal message to the individual. If they feel that you understand them and care about their situation then they are more likely - to bring their business to you.

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วันอาทิตย์ที่ 19 ตุลาคม พ.ศ. 2551

Public Relations: Converting the Non-Believers

What's the real reason some managers shy away from public relations? I believe it's because they don't understand, or believe, the direct connection between what public relations is capable of delivering and their need to achieve specific business objectives.

It's lost opportunity of the worst kind. And a shame, because the reason we do public relations in the first place is to change the behaviors of certain groups of people important to the success of those very Doubting Thomas managers.

First, I would say to them, surely, it's not that difficult a concept to understand or accept. People act on their perception of the facts; those perceptions lead to certain behaviors; and something can be done about those perceptions and behaviors that leads to achieving your organization's objectives.

Better yet, you can establish the degree of behavior change you want, up front, then insist on getting that result before you pronounce the public relations effort a success.

That way, you KNOW you're getting your money's worth.

Here's another approach. How can you measure the results of an activity more accurately than when you clearly achieve the goal you set at the beginning of that activity? You can't. It's pure success when you meet that goal.

Public relations is no different. The client/employer wants our help in altering counterproductive perceptions among key audiences which almost always change behaviors in a way that helps him or her get to where they want to be.

But, as Doubting Thomases you might ask, are we really qualified to do that job?

I think yes, because everything we do is based on the same realities -- people act on their perception of the facts, and we can do something about those perceptions. And when public relations activity successfully creates, changes or reinforces that opinion by reaching, persuading and moving-to-action those people whose behaviors affect the organization, the public relations effort is a success.

It works this way in practice.

* you may wish to encourage a certain audience to sample your soft drink brand's great taste and refreshing flavor, in the process creating perceptions of value, then new sales.

* or you may want people to perceive your organization more positively, thus strengthening its reputation.

* it could be as simple as communicating a company's strengths to a target audience leading them to a positive perception of the firm, in turn leading to new investments in the company's shares.

I know, Mr. or Ms. Manager, that you are not primarily interested in our ability to communicate, paint images or schmooz with the media. Nor are you especially fascinated with our efforts to identify target audiences, set public relations goals and strategies, write persuasive messages and select communications tactics.

What I believe you DO want is a change in the behaviors of certain key audiences leading directly to the achievement of your business objectives.

Which is why we continually stress that quality planning, and the degree of behavioral change it produces, defines the success or failure of a public relations program.

Done correctly, when public relations results in modified behaviors among groups of people important to an organization, we could be talking about nothing less than its survival.

So, for your organization, Ms. Manager, that means public relations professionals must modify somebody's behavior if they are to help hit your objective and earn a paycheck - I believe everything else is a means to that end.

O.K., Mr. Manager, let's look at how public relations might work for you out on the ground. We'll use the example of a national marketer of furniture imported from the Far East. First, we identify the key operating problem to be addressed. Let's say we receive news reports and other input, amplified by competitive trouble-making out in the trade, about rumors circulating to the effect that serious quality problems have cropped up in the company's factories in Southeast Asia.

Here, we verify whether the allegation is true or false. So, because the company's sales have leveled off and are starting to decline, public relations counsel and staff, working closely with the company's manufacturing people here and abroad, establish conclusively that rumors of declining quality are without foundation, and simply untrue.

But, even though the rumors are not true, we still want to verify the status of both consumer and trade PERCEPTIONS of the company's product quality.

But, surprise! Probing consumer opinion through personal contact and informal polling out in the market place, counsel and staff determine that, in fact, there really IS a disturbing perception out there that the company's furniture line is "of low quality and overpriced."

It's useful to make the point here, Ms. Manager, that public relations problems are nearly always defined by what people think about the facts, as opposed to the actual truth of the matter.

Moving on, we establish the public relations goal: alter the public perception of the company's furniture quality. This will lead to positive consumer behavioral changes, in turn resulting in furniture buyers returning to company showrooms once again.

Now we determine the public relations strategy. We only have three choices: CREATE opinion where none exists, CHANGE existing opinion, or REINFORCE that existing opinion. Because existing opinion has turned negative on the quality of the company's furniture, the public relations strategy will be to begin the process of CHANGING that opinion from negative to positive.

Here, we identify key audiences. In this case, at the top of the list is the furniture-buying public - customers and prospects - as well as the trade and business communities, employees, local thought-leaders and media in the company's retail outlet locations, and a number of other possible stakeholder groups.

Now, Ms. and Mr. Manager, we begin preparation of what we hope will be persuasive messages for communication to our target audiences.

It's a challenge. The messages must disarm the rumors circulating in the furniture community with clear evidence of excellent design and construction quality, and seconded by credible third-party endorsements such as satisfied customers and top design consultants.

Regular assessments of how opinion is currently running among target groups must be performed, constantly tweaking the message and, finally, action-producing incentives for individuals to take the desired actions must be identified and built into each message.

Those incentives might include the very strength of the company's forthright position on the quality issue, high-credibility designer endorsements, plans for expansion that hold the promise of more jobs and taxes, or even the sponsorship of a new cable TV furniture design show.

So, how will target audiences in the various company locations actually be reached, Mr. Manager Thomas? Among a wide variety of available communications tactics, choices include face-to-face meetings, Internet ezines and email, hand-placed newspaper and magazine feature articles and broadcast appearances, special consumer briefings, news releases, announcement luncheons, onsite media interviews, facility tours, brochures and promotional contests.

Now, it's time to monitor progress and look for signs of improvement. Public relations staff and counsel must speak regularly with members of each target audience, monitor print and broadcast media for evidence of the company's messages or viewpoints, and interact with key customers, prospects and influentials.

At last, indicators that the messages are moving opinion in your direction will start appearing. Indicators like comments in community business meetings, mentions in research analyst's reports, local newspaper editorials, e-mails from members of target audiences as well as public references by political figures and local celebrities.

What is happening, is that the action program is beginning to gain and hold the kind of public understanding and acceptance that will lead to the desired shift in public behavior.

And the end-game for this example of public relations in action?

When the changes in behaviors become truly apparent through increased showroom traffic, media reports, thought-leader comment, employee and community chatter and a variety of other feedback - in other words, clearly meeting the original behavior modification goal - two things have occurred. One, the public relations program is a success and, two, by achieving the behavioral goal you set at the beginning, you are using a near-perfect public relations performance measurement.

To assess behavior changes and, thus, the degree of success the public relations program has achieved, we need evidence of changes in behavior showing up as follows: Internet chatter and in print and broadcast news coverage, letters-to-the-editor, consumer and customer reactions, shareholder letters, comments from community leaders, informal polls of employees, retirees, industrial neighbors and local businesses, feedback from suppliers as well as reaction from elected officials, union leaders and government agencies.

But, we can't let the Doubting Thomases off the hook without reminders that some very basic but unattended perceptions may be out there that could lead to very costly negative behaviors. For example, Mr. Manager:

* if sales prospects are unaware of your product or service, you will not get them as customers.

* if your customers don't remain convinced of the value of your product or service, you lose them.

* and if employees believe you don't care about them, productivity suffers.

And on and on when still more audiences like citizens, journalists, regulators, investors and legislators don't believe you.

In the end, a sound strategy combined with effective tactics leads directly to the bottom line - altered perceptions, modified behaviors, a happy CEO and a public relations home run.

So, Mr. and Ms. Manager Thomas, what do I believe you want from us? I believe you want us to apply our special skills in a way that helps you achieve your business objectives. But no matter what strategic plan we create to solve a problem, no matter what tactical program we put in place, at the end of the day we must modify somebody's behavior for you if we are to earn our money.

Which is why I say that when you measure our real effectiveness, you will be fully satisfied with those public relations results only when our "reach, persuade and move-to-action" efforts produce that visible modification in the behaviors of those people you wish to influence. In my view, this is the central, strategic function of public relations - the basic context in which we must operate.

Doubting Thomases aside, I hope these remarks contain a nugget or two that assists you in leading the non-believers in your organizations to a better understanding of the function of public relations. Especially how it can strengthen relationships with those important groups of people - those target audiences whose perceptions and behaviors can help or hinder the achievement of their business objectives.

Please feel free to publish this article and resource box in your ezine, newsletter, offline publication or website. A copy would be appreciated at bobkelly@TNI.net.

Robert A. Kelly ? 2005.

Bob Kelly counsels, writes and speaks to business, non-profit and association managers about using the fundamental premise of public relations to achieve their operating objectives. He has been DPR, Pepsi-Cola Co.; AGM-PR, Texaco Inc.; VP-PR, Olin Corp.; VP-PR, Newport News Shipbuilding & Drydock Co.; director of communications, U.S. Department of the Interior, and deputy assistant press secretary, The White House. He holds a bachelor of science degree from Columbia University, major in public relations.

Visit: http://www.prcommentary.com; bobkelly@TNI.net

วันศุกร์ที่ 17 ตุลาคม พ.ศ. 2551

Are You Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child?

Although many parents are concerned with our children's intelligence quotient (IQ), research shows that a child's emotional quotient (EQ) is just as important for that child's personal success. So what is Emotional Intelligence? Emotional quotient is your child's ability to feel, while intelligence quotient is your child's ability to think. Although the term was coined in 1990 by psychologists Peter Salovey and John Mayer, the person responsible for bringing more awareness to emotional intelligence is a science writer Daniel Goleman.

Mr Goleman's book Emotional Intelligence brought to light the importance of a child's skill of awareness, empathy and ability to manage emotions. Although there is some controversy regarding how emotional intelligence plays a role in a child's life, there is evidence of the value of emotional intelligence.

Two of the multiple intelligences of Dr. Howard Gardner are Inter and Intra personal intelligence. Inter-personal Intelligence is the ability to relate to and understand others. Intra personal Intelligence is the ability to self reflect and understand inner emotions and identify strengths and weaknesses. Emotional intelligence combines the two intelligences and helps a child to manage their feelings and emotions as well as empathize with the feelings and emotions of others.

Should we be concerned about the emotional intelligence of our children? Yes, because part of growing up to be responsible, healthy and happy individuals is the ability to show respect, cooperate and have empathy. We live in a society that inundates us with so much technology that we sometimes forget the importance of human contact and relationships. Children need to be able to understand their feelings. We place so much emphasis on behavior, that we neglect the underlying feelings that create these behaviors. Misbehavior is sometimes caused by an unmet need. According to psychologist Abraham Maslow, "people are motivated by their unsatisfied needs".

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs illustrates the five basic human needs:

1. Biological and Physiological needs - air, food, drink, shelter, warmth, sex, sleep, etc.

2. Safety needs - protection from elements, security, order, law, limits, stability, etc.

3. Belongingness and Love needs - work group, family, affection, relationships, etc.

4. Esteem needs - self-esteem, achievement, mastery, independence, status, dominance, prestige, managerial responsibility, etc.

5. Self-Actualization needs - realizing personal potential, self-fulfillment, seeking personal growth and peak experiences. Only when the lowest of the needs (#1) is met, can a person start to move up toward fulfilling the other needs. For example, if your child does not feel safe at home, your child can not be expected to perform well in school (#3-Belongingness).

We also are not aware how our moods affect our children's moods. If a parent is stressed and constantly annoyed, the child picks up on that mood and starts to behave the same way. If we do not speak to our children about their feelings, acknowledge their feelings and validate their feelings, our children will not understand how to be responsible for their own feelings and emotions.

When children have their emotional needs met, they are able to make healthy decisions in life. Some of children's emotional needs are to feel loved, safe, understood, valued, trusted, listened to, worthy, appreciated, needed, important and motivated. To find out what your child's emotional needs, think about how do you want your child to feel and how you would like to create those feelings for your child.

So how can you raise your child's emotional intelligence?

For starters with young children, as parents we can demonstrate healthy ways of expressing our own emotions.

Use the word "I" to own the feeling. Start with I feel upset when I am not heard.

Give the feeling a label for your child: "It looks like you're sad because your friend could not come over and play."

Validate your child's feelings. Listen, nod your head, use short comments to get them to continue talking. Do not criticize or yell or your child will shut down.

Make eye contact and pay attention.

As your child grows, help them to understand different emotions and why people react to certain circumstances.

Help your child to identify the following:
How am I feeling right now?
Why am I feeling this way?
How would I like to feel?

The more you help your child understand his/her emotions, the more your child will be able to control impulsive behavior and cooperate with others.

Resources

Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs:
http://honolulu.hawaii.edu/intranet/committees/FacDevCom/guidebk/teachtip/maslow.htm

Emotional Intelligence for children ages 2-4
http://www.operationhomefront.org/downloads/Emotional_intellegence_2-4.pdf

Emotional Intelligence for children ages 5-7
http://www.operationhomefront.org/downloads/Emotional_Intellegence_5-7.pdf

Article: How Important is Emotional Intelligence?
http://www.parentssource.com/5.20.01.give.article.html

Cultivate Emotional Intelligence in Your Child
http://www.vtaide.com/png/EQ.htm

Emotional Intelligence: What is it? Who has it? How to get it?
http://www.imageryforkids.com/art_emotionalintelligence.asp

Marie M. Roker is an Academic and Personal Development Coach who helps parents and children to disover and develop their strengths, talents and natural gifts. Visit her online at http://www.successfulchild.com or http://www.smartbeecoaching.com

วันอังคารที่ 14 ตุลาคม พ.ศ. 2551

Prevent Phone Monitoring with Digital Spread Spectrum

If you are using an analog cordless or cellular telephone, someone is listening to your conversations!

You'll notice I did not say someone might be listening to your telephone conversations, or there is a possibility that your telephone conversations can be overheard. Simply put, your telephone conversations are being monitored! Radio hobbyists, with their scanners being used as spy equipment, have the capability to listen to telephone conversations and we must assume that a small percentage do from time to time.

Beyond these hobbyists, however, is an underground culture of scanner users who make specific efforts to monitor telephone conversations. This underground culture ranges from individuals wanting nothing more than to satisfy their personal curiosity, to news reporters lookng for leads, to private eyes gathering information for a case, to criminals listening for credit cards numbers, SSN's, or other information to be used in the furtherance of a crime. Beyond this, various law enforcement and security agencies may monitor telephones for their own purposes.

But wait, you say--it's illegal to monitor telephone conversations. It's even illegal for the police to do so without a warrant. True, it's illegal to monitor telephone conversations, but do you really think that noone's listening? A law is nothing more than words and, in and of itself, does nothing to prevent that which it proscribes. The chance of getting caught doing phone monitoring are almost nil, and when have you heard of anyone being prosecuted for monitoring a cordless phone?

HOW TO PREVENT IT

One way to prevent monitoring of your telephone conversations is through the use of digital spread spectrum technology. To understand this, we first need to be aware that telephones are either analog or digital. Analog telephones are nothing more than radio transmitters sending signals between the telephone and the cell site in the case of cellular phones and between the handset and the base plugged in the wall socket in the case of cordless phones.

Any radio scanner can be programmed to receive the cordless telephone frequencies. Newer scanners have the cellular telephone frequencies block, but these frequencies can be unblocked by anyone with a basic knowledge of radio electronics. Digital telephones are also radio transmitters, but a digital signal is unintelligible when heard on an analog receiver. Of course, a digital receiver would receive a digital telephone signal were it programmed to the appropriate frequency. However, here is where spread spectrum technology comes in.

Spread spectrum was first used during World War II as a method to prevent torpedos being jammed en route to their target.

Digital spread spectrum uses a signal spread over a number of frequencies. These signals are difficult to intercept and demodulate and are resistant to jamming or interference. This provides for a clearer and cleaner telephone signal, as well as preventing monitoring of the signal itself. It is also worth noting that cordless telephones are now available with an operating frequency of 2.4 GHz. Since most scanners do not receive into the gigahertz range, this gives additional protection against interception and phone monitoring of your telephone signal as it is transmitted between the handset and the base.

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วันเสาร์ที่ 11 ตุลาคม พ.ศ. 2551

A Guide to Finding an Adverse Credit Homeowner Loan

If you're searching for an adverse credit homeowner loan, you might not know where to turn. After all, it seems like no one wants to give you the time of day if you have less than perfect credit, much less give you a loan.

There are lenders who will be more than willing to give you an adverse credit homeowner loan, though? the main thing is knowing where to look.

Before we discuss where to look, though, take a moment to make sure that you know what an adverse credit homeowner loan is first.

Securing a loan with equity

One of the most important things to remember about getting an adverse credit homeowner loan is that if you have equity in your house or real estate, then you can get a loan.

Equity is a measure of the amount of money that you've invested into your home by making payments against the mortgage, and is described by some people as being the percentage of the house that you actually own.

An adverse credit homeowner loan uses the equity in your home as collateral to secure the loan, guaranteeing that the lender will get their money back.

The amount of equity that you have is what the lenders base their decisions on as to the loan amount you're eligible for? if you have more equity then you'll be able to get a bigger adverse credit homeowner loan.

Finding a lender

Some people think that there aren't many lenders who would be willing to grant an adverse credit homeowner loan, but in truth they're practically everywhere.

Many banks and finance companies are more than willing to grant a loan as long as there's enough security, which in the case of an adverse credit homeowner loan is provided by the equity of the house.

If you're unable to find a lender in your area that offers the loan that you want, you can also check online? many online services offer faster response, lower interest rates, and more convenience than standard banks, and can be accessed from any computer with an internet connection.

Getting the best rate

Take your time and investigate the rates of several lenders before deciding on a single adverse credit homeowner loan.

Doing a little research beforehand will help you to identify which lenders have the lowest interest rates and best loan terms, and will let you compare the rates offered by online services and those in the real world so that you can see for yourself which is the better deal.

A little extra time spent in the beginning of your search to find the lowest interest rate can translate into big savings later, so don't be afraid to get quotes and shop around for the best loan for your money.

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About The Author

John Mussi is the founder of Direct Online Loans who help homeowners find the best available loans via the http://www.directonlineloans.co.uk website.

วันพุธที่ 8 ตุลาคม พ.ศ. 2551

Thoughts Are Like Seeds - Are You Planting Flowers or Weeds?

"You can't harvest what you don't sow. So plant your desires, gently nurture them and they will be rewarded with abundance. " Vivian Elisabeth Glyck -12 Lessons on Life I Learned From My Garden.

Thoughts Are Like Seeds - Are You Planting Flowers or Weeds?

I especially love springtime. I enjoy walking around my neighborhood each day and marveling at all the colorful plants in bloom. I am rewarded each day with seeing blossoms that were not there the day before. Sometimes I see abandoned gardens where beautiful plants used to grow and now there are just weeds. It reminds me of life. If we do not tend our gardens (our lives), it doesn't mean that plants will not grow. What it does mean, however, is the wrong plants will grow.

Every thought we have is a seed being planted. We can either plants seeds that grow into bountiful flowers or we can plant seeds that grow into weeds. We are all gardeners in our own lives. Only what grows in each individual garden varies dramatically. Think of your mind as your garden. What types of seeds are you planting? Are you growing weeds of judgment, self-condemnation, scarcity or disharmony? Or is your garden (mind) full of blossoms of peace, abundance, love and harmony? Look at the sample list below. See if you recognize what you are planting in your garden.

Weeds:

I'll never make enough money.

Bad things always happen to me.

I always get sick.

I am too old (or young).

I'm not good enough.

I blame or resent others.

I am too fat (skinny, short, tall, wrinkled).

Flowers:

My life is blessed with growing abundance.

I am grateful for _________.

My body is healthy and strong.

I have a great life.

I am a unique person with special gifts.

I let go of the past & release all resentments.

My body serves me well.

Weeds pop up in each garden and it takes a diligent gardener to keep the weeds out. Certain plants (energizing thoughts) help smother out weeds. Over time, the more of these plants and seeds you sow, the less ground there is for the weeds to grow. Take a close look at your mental garden. Begin to pull out any limiting thoughts (weeds) and replace them with the opposite uplifting thoughts. Become your own diligent gardener starting now and continue until your garden is a showcase!

Copyright April 2004 by Vicki Miller

As a Life Transition Coach I work with clients to identify what's most important to them and prioritize around these values. I help my clients identify and remove obstacles in the way and bring clarity and focus to their dreams. What is your dream? Are you undergoing a major transition and not clear where to turn? Call (972-306-4489) or email me, (coach.v.miller@verizon.net), to set up a complimentary, no obligation 30 minute coaching session. Download my FREE e-Book, 12 Fun Ways to Change Your Life, or sign up for my FREE monthly newsletter at http://www.thrivingthroughchange.com

วันอาทิตย์ที่ 5 ตุลาคม พ.ศ. 2551

The Major Benefit Of Night Fishing

Number One Benefit to Night Fishing

I think the best thing about night fishing is that the conditions are generally the same as day fishing, but the results are much better.

If you find a good spot where the fish are really hitting during the day, you can go to that same spot at night and get even better results!

The fish seem to hit harder at night as well, so it is almost easier to hook them at night than it is during the day, even though it is harder to see the line.

Places where you get a few nibbles during the day will often lead to many catches at night in the same spot.

Night fishing can make a bad daytime fisherman look good.

I always like to keep track of the lures that work at certain fishing spots during the day, and then try the exact same thing at night. Try it next time you are out. You'll be amazed at the difference a simple variable (time of day) has on your results.

Here is a simple way to keep track.

One a piece of paper, write four column headings:

Place Lure Used Number Catches Size of Fish
----- --------- -------------- ------------

Then, write down your results from your day time fishing below the columns on your paper.

After you try a few difference spots with a few different lures, do the exact same thing you did during the day at night this time.

Daniel Eggertsen is a long time fishermen, as well as President and Founder of Evening Secret Fishing (http://www.eveningsecretfishing.com/specialsecret/benefit.php)

วันศุกร์ที่ 3 ตุลาคม พ.ศ. 2551

Different Ways to Borrow Money

There are many different ways to borrow money. Outlined below is a useful guide to some of most common ways of borrowing money.

Loans

There are many loan companies offering to lend you money. They will check your credit worthiness and may offer you a secured loan or an unsecured loan.

A secured loan means that you undertake to give the lender property you own if you do not keep up the repayments. In return, you usually get a lower APR and longer repayment period. An unsecured loan costs more in repayments but does not carry all the risks of a secured loan.

Overdrafts

Your bank might allow you to overdraw - that is, borrow from the bank by taking out more money than you currently have in your account.

You will be charged interest on your overdraft and possibly a fee as well. If you go over the overdraft limit set by the bank, you will have to pay a lot more.

Check what the bank charges for overdrafts and try hard not to go over your limit. If you do need to borrow and cannot repay the amount very quickly, you might be better off with a bank loan.

Always check the bank's interest rate and other charges.

Credit cards

Using a credit card to buy things means that you do not have to pay right away. Each time you use a credit card, you sign a slip of paper (or type in your PIN) to say that you agree to the cost of your purchase being added to your credit card account.

You will get a bill from the credit card company at the end of every month listing all the things you have bought. With most cards, if you clear the balance in full before the date given, you will not have to pay any interest.

Be very careful when using a credit card. Small purchases mount up very quickly - keep a record of what you spend. If you spend more than you really mean to and can't pay it all back in time, you will be charged interest.

Take great care of your card. If it is lost or stolen, report it immediately.

You may freely reprint this article provided the author's biography remains intact:

About The Author

John Mussi is the founder of Direct Online Loans who help UK homeowners find the best available loans via the http://www.directonlineloans.co.uk website.